How I was kidnapped, tortured for rejecting love advances – UNILAG student

Policemen attached to Adeniji Adele division have arrested a 22-year-old man who alleged kidnapped and rapèd a student of the University of Lagos, UNILAG, Akoka, for turning down his advances. The suspect, Babajide Bashorun, was also alleged to have taken nudè shots of his victim (names withheld) and pasted them on the internet with her real name, school, department and age. But the suspect in an interview with Vanguard claimed that the lady was his girlfriend. He admitted to have taken her nudè pictures and gave them to his friends whose identities he gave as Aje Mayowa and Babajide Ademuyiwa, both final year students of Architecture also of UNILAG. The incident, as gathered, occurred two months ago at 1, Ajose Street, Enu-Owa area of Lagos Island. But the female undergraduate was silent over the matter until her relations abroad who stumbled on the nudè pictures on the internet contacted her mother in Nigeria, last week. How it started Narrating how the incident occurred, the female undergraduate said: “Babajide came to our house to treat our dog. In the process, he requested for my phone number and I reluctantly gave him. He started calling me and told me he would like to go out with me. “But I told him I already had a boyfriend whom I loved. Yet, he kept calling me, saying he was not interested in just going out with me but wanted to marry me. Aside that, he kept monitoring my movements and at a point, I deleted his contact on my phone. “I was returning home for a weekend in April , a car stopped by my side at Idumota bus-stop. Jide was sitting beside a driver who was unknown to me. “On sighting him, I walked past. But the next thing he did was to hold me by the hand, dragged me into the car and drove to his house. “When he got home, he started beating me and tore my clothes, asking what I wanted that he could not give me. He instructed me to unlock my phone and when he discovered that I used my boyfriend’s name as password, he resumed the beating. “At a point, he gave me his phone to speak with some of his friends who told me I was in for trouble, for turning down a member of their unnamed cult, threatening that they would kill me for treating him shabbily. “Thereafter, he rapèd me and when he was done, his friend took his turn despite my plea. When he saw I was bleeding, he stopped and started begging me. At that point, he brought out his phone and started taking my nudè pictures. I made attempt to cover my face but he hit me on the head with a bottle and continued taking the shots. How I escaped “I begged him to allow me call my mother to give him some money for my release but he refused. I also appealed to him to delete my pictures when he started begging me. “I stayed in that room all night till the next day when he went out to get me some drugs. Immediately he stepped out, I tried the door and discovered it was not locked from outside. I quickly changed into one of my dirty clothes in my bag and escaped. “But I could not tell anyone at home. When my elder brother asked what the problem was on seeing the blood stained clothes, I told him I was involved in an accident and when my mother insisted on knowing what the problem was, I told her I fought with a course mate. She insisted on going to school with me on seeing the magnitude of the injury but I prevented her. “Barely had I settled down than Babjide called, threatening to kill me if I disclosed what happened to anyone. As if that was not enough, his friends also called and threatened me as well.” She is my girlfriend — Suspect However,on his part, Babjide claimed that the undergraduate was his girlfriend, adding that they only had a fight on that fateful day. Expressing shock over his arrest, he said: “She is my girlfriend. We only fought in April and have resolved the matter. “What led to the fight was her request for money to buy an IPad which cost over N100,000. Because of my love for her, I managed to raise N70,000. She visited me on that day and I advised her to change her way of living which included going to club . I also accused her of flirting with other men. Along the line, we started fighting and I used a mop stick to hit her and in the process , took shots of her and sent the pictures to my friends. But I did not tell them to paste the pictures on the internet.” Police sources hinted that efforts were on to arrest Mayowa and Ademuyiwa alleged to have pasted the victim’s nudè pictures on the internet, while Babajide had been charged to court for kidnapping, rapè, conspiracy, attempt to commit murder, indecent assault, and assault occasioning harm.

Check out Mercy Johnson's N15million Lexus GX 460 + visits OJB

Her husband, Prince Odi Okojie, bought her the SUV a few weeks back. Peep the plate number. Meanwhile Mercy Johnson was spotted at OJB's Gbaja residence this afternoon. Heard she made a generous donation to the ailing music producer but didn't want her photos taken. So my pap took a photo of her car instead...:-) Also heard that so far OJB has only been able to raise N3million. Don Jazzy, Ruggedman and Mercy Johnson Okojie are the only well known celebs that have donated so far. Though I hear P-Square and their brother Jude Okoye are planning to pay him a visit soon. I'm kinda surprised it's taking this long to raise this money. I can't tell his colleagues what to do with their money

52 Nigerians Raided In Malaysia Now Awaits Deportation

52 Nigerians were arrested in Malaysia during a midnight raiding by the Malaysia immigration police. Houses occupied by Nigerians were all raided, doors destroyed and Nigerians were arrested both clothed and naked on bed. Thou, some Nigerian guys were lucky to have not been at home at the time of the raid but their doors were pulled down and left opened up till now. The unfortunate once are in custody awaiting deportation. What could have been the cause of this raid and treatment towards Nigerians?

After Stealing N25 Billion From Edo State, EFCC wants to close case against Igbinedion

THE Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) yesterday said it will on September 23 close its case in the ongoing trial of Michael Igbinedion, the younger brother of former Edo State Governor Lucky N. Igbinedion. Igbinedion, Patrick Eboigbodin and four companies – Gava Corporation Limited, Romrig Nigeria Limited, PML Securities Company Limited and PML Nigeria Limited – are facing trial at a Federal High Court sitting in Benin, Edo State, over N25 billion scam. A statement yesterday by the Head of Media and Publicity of the anti-graft commission, Mr. Wilson Uwujaren, said three witnesses had testified for the commission. The statement said: “At the resumed hearing on Friday, June 21, 2013, EFCC called three witnesses. The first witness, Mr. Ajoyo Sowale, an Accounts Officer with Guaranty Trust Bank, identified various account statements and account opening documents of the accused and confirmed the lodgements made into the various accounts. He also told the court that he printed the various account statements and got them certified. “The EFCC counsel, Mr. Rotimi Jacobs (SAN), further led the second witness, Mr. Eriyo Amadiayagbon David, who was a Personal Assistant to Micheal Igbinedion, in evidence. David told the court how the second accused, Michael Igbinedion, instructed him on several occasions to make lodgements into his GTB accounts and those of Romrig Nigeria Limited and Gava Corporation. “According to David, he usually received cash from the Accountant at the Government House and paid into the account of the second accused ‘and after paying the government entourage, the remaining cash is usually given to the ADC (Aide-De-Camp) to the Governor’. “The witness further identified his name on the printed account statement of Michael Igbinedion, which is part of the exhibits before the court. “During cross-examination, counsel to the first accused, Mike Ozekhome (SAN), asked the witness if he ever stole government money with the first accused, Mr. Patrick Eboigbodin, and the witness told the court that he never did.” Justice Liman adjourned the matter till September 23 and 24

Jonathan’s Bodyguard Blocks Amaechi From Shaking Him; Amaechi Blasts Akpabio

From what we gathered from sources, there was drama on Wednesday night at the Banquet Hall of the Presidential Villa, Abuja, venue of the Presidential dinner organised by President Goodluck Jonathan with almost all state governors in attendance. Probably following directives, a fierce-looking bodyguard stopped Rivers State Governor, Rotimi Amaechi from getting close to President Jonathan and shake hands with him... Amaechi, who is the chairman of the Nigeria Governors’ Forum (NGF), and his loyalists arrived the venue when the event was already in progress. They came in from the Rivers Governor’s lodge where they met earlier for about 15 minutes and then adjourned to honour the President’s invitation. On his entourage were Governors Kayode Fayemi (Ekiti); Ibikunle Amosun (Ogun); Adams Oshiomole (Edo); Sule Lamido (Jigawa); Rabiu Kwankwanso (Kano); Abdulazeez Kyari-(Zamfara); Muritala Nyako (Adamawa) and Magartakada Wamakko (Sokoto). Governor Amaechi, after settling down, got up and made his way towards where President Goodluck Jonathan was seated in company of Presidents Joyce Banda of Malawi and Ellen Johnson Sirleaf of Liberia, apparently to greet the president as Chairman of Governors Forum. However, a presidential bodyguard blocked the governor from meeting the President. Amaechi resisted for a while but had to return to his seat when it was glaring the bodyguard won’t allow him. Also, Governor Amaechi was not recognised at the event while Governor Godswill Akpabio was introduced as chairman of the PDP Governors Forum. Consequently, when Amaechi returned to his seat beside Akpabio, he accused him of being undemocratic and Akpabio fired back. “You are not democratic”, Amaechi told Akpabio and the latter instantly fired back, “You too, you are not democratic”. Minutes later, Governors Amaechi, Fayemi and Oshiomole left. On his way out, Amaechi fielded questions from journalists. The following conversation ensued between him and State House correspondents: Is your presence here with other governors an indication that the problem in NGF has been resolved? Was NGF sick? I don’t know about factions. We are holding NGF meeting and we agreed that those of us who were there should honour the President and attend the dinner, we have attended, you saw all of them, some have left and I am leaving too Did you tell Governor Jang there is meeting now? He was invited. What is my business if he is not there? 16 to 19. Are you not a Nigerian? 16 governors voted for him, 19 governors voted for me. If he does not accept the 19, he is undemocratic. Anybody who supports him, including television houses, are also undemocratic... Those with me are in majority.

Grant repentant Boko Haram members amnesty – Onyema - See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/06/grant-repentant-boko-haram-members-amnesty-onyema-2/#sthash.N7gJTVTd.dpuf

LAGOS— CO-ORDINATOR of the presidential amnesty transformation programme, Mr. Allen Onyema, has urged the Federal Government to give repentant members of Boko Haram sect a second chance by granting them amnesty. Onyema, who partly blamed northern leaders and elite for the immense poverty in the region, also called for compensation for victims of the Boko Haram menace whether through attacks of the sect or military incursion. In an exclusive interview with Vanguard, the lawyer, who leads the Federation for Ethnic Harmony in Nigeria, FEHN, urged members of the sect to come out, renounce violence, and accept the amnesty being offered by the government. Noting that majority of northerners are peaceful and want peace, he regretted the violent turn things had taken in the region - See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/06/grant-repentant-boko-haram-members-amnesty-onyema-2/#sthash.N7gJTVTd.dpuf

Man jailed 22 yrs for abducting Italian

ASABA — AN Asaba High Court has sentenced one Bello Okashetu to 22 years imprisonment with hard labour for kidnapping an Italian. The victim, Mr. Renzo Galvagni, an engineer, according to prosecution, was abducted by a gang of kidnappers on March 8, 2011 on Okpanam Road. The court was told that the victim, however, summoned courage and jumped out of the gang’s moving vehicle while being taken to a hideout after the gang had succeeded in disposing him of his International passport, cheque booklets, two laptops, cash and other valuables at gunpoint. Handing down the sentence, Wednesday, the judge (names withheld) stated that “in considering the plea for mercy by defence counsel, the court is also mindful of the prevailing rate of the crime of kidnapping. To serve as deterrent to others, I hereby sentence the accused to five years imprisonment with hard labour on count three; seven years imprisonment with hard labour on count four and 10 years imprisonment also with hard labour on count five without no option of fine. Only counts four and five are to run concurrently.” Prosecution called three witnesses, including the victim, to prove its case while the accused called no witness but testified for himself. The court also ordered the Divisional Police Officer, DPO, in charge of ‘B’ Division, Asaba to destroy the weapons recovered from the accused which include one AK 47 rifle, 29 rounds of live ammunition and two magazines within 28 days of the judgment in the presence of the Court Registrar. - See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/06/man-jailed-22-yrs-for-abducting-italian/#sthash.83gUCcmD.dpuf

Keshi opens doors for Yobo, Osaze, Nsofor

Nigeria coach Stephen Keshi has opened the national team door to striker Osaze Odemwingie and skipper Joseph Yobo, but Taye Taiwo may not find it easy to get his way back into the team. They have been out of the national team fro sometime. But shortly after the Super Eagles’ Fifa Confederations Cup campaign came to a grinding halt against Spain, Keshi told KickOffNigeria.com exclusively how the players can get back in. Coach Stephen Keshi and Captain Joseph Yobo.

“They should just be themselves, play their game,” Keshi said. “Yobo is still my captain. It’s unfortunate that he’s not here, but he’s still the captain of the team.“Taiwo is still playing but I have younger players that are playing well. I have Juwon, who is not here. I have Benjamin Francis, and I have Echiejile whose performance has improved greatly. So it will be a difficult thing for Taiwo to get back in. “For Osaze, he still has a place in the team.“I’m not looking for an apology from him. Osaze is somebody that I like very well and he knows that. The thing is, it’s about the team that I’m worried about. “I don’t want to have a player that will come in and divide the team, or who will destabilize the team, because when the team is not together, it becomes very difficult to win.“I’m not saying he is going to come in and do that, but a little bit of what he has shown has told me that this is possible.“I really want to have him in the team, and I would like to give him another opportunity. ”One player that Keshi says he really wants to see back in the national team is Obinna Nsofor, along with Seattle Sounders forward Obafemi Martins.“The person I am really keen to have is Obinna Nsofor.“Unfortunately, each time I call him, he’s always injured. Hopefully next time he will be fit.“Martins is coming back gradually. The last two call-ups he wasn’t in good shape but I needed to play him,” he told KickOffNigeria.com. - See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/06/keshi-opens-doors-for-yobo-osaze-nsofor/#sthash.Elu506OL.dpuf

''Mc-Loph was killed by Emeka Morgon''-mum cries out

It appears the CEO of Morgan Entertainment is not telling us all the truth he knows about the death Igbo rapper, Obiajulu Nwozo, famously addressed as MC Loph and his only sister, Chinwe. Recall that in one of our previous posts, we served you a story of how former Morgan Entertainment MD, Obi Madubogwu, accused the label CEO, Emeka Morgan Nwanne Oguejiofor of allegedly using the late MC Loph and only sister for rituals. Further investigations by myemag.net has proven that there are other people joining voices with Madubogwu to label Morgan a ritualist and being responsible for the death of the rapper. They are no other persons than the late rapper’s mum and his fiancée, Ngozi, who was the only survivor of the accident that claimed both the life of the rapper and his only sister. In an exclusive chat with our correspondent, who reached out to MC Loph’s mum via a phone conversation, the aged woman, we also learnt suffers hypertension, lamented almost endlessly of how Emeka Morgan abandoned her and the late rapper’s son, after making a pledge of placing her on a meager salary of 30 thousand naira monthly. According Mrs Obiozor, “Emeka Morgan killed my only son and daughter, left me childless and handicapped. Since Obiajulu died, the only time I set my eyes on the so-called Morgan was in May 2012, when he came with Obi Madubogu, gave me a bag of rice, a gallon of groundnut oil and 60 thousand naira and asked me never to allow Nkiru (MC Loph’s wife) to have a share of the money. But I couldn’t, I gave the money over to Nkiru after he left and it was used to fix the Camry with which she does most of her run arounds in Lagos. Since then, he had neither called nor checked on me again.” Contrary to the rumour which went agog in a section of the media a few months ago that Emeka Oguejiofor, the owner of Morgan Entertainment adopted late MC Loph’s son, Mrs Obiozor stated categorically that Morgan is a liar and will not go unpunished. According to her, “is it possible to adopt a child you have not set your eyes on since he was born? Probably he adopted Obiajulu Jnr in his dreams or imagination. I heard the rumour too, but all I can say is that God will judge him both in life and in death; he will never know any peace in his lifetime, for shedding the blood of my children whom I know did not wrong him in any way.” Meanwhile, myemag.net further checks revealed that late MC Loph’s family, which consists of his uncles and other extended family, avoids Emeka Morgan with every sense of consciousness. An insider insisted that the family have not stopped accusing him of being responsible for the death of the rapper and his only sister. According to him, ‘Emeka Morgan is not clean and we the entire MC Loph’s family strongly believes he is responsible for the death of our children. For instance, shortly after the accident and doctor’s confirmation that Obiajulu’s wife was pregnant, we decided that she should stay behind in Lagos and not travel with the family to the village for her husband’s burial, but Morgan insisted that she must travel by air to Awka, which the entire family frowned at and resulted into a face-off with him until he eventually succumbed pressure. “The question is why must he insist on Nkiru’s presence at her Obiajulu’s burial, if he had no ulterior motive? In one occasion when he, Morgan visited MC Loph’s mum last year, he was bent on knowing where Nkiru was seated when the accident happened and how come she managed to survive an accident that claimed the lives of every other occupants of the car? Does it not tell you that this man probably wanted everybody in that vehicle dead and buried, but for God’s intervention? “In reference to recent events that happened following the death of Obiajulu, we now know that his death his not natural, we may not have a voice, or the money to fight Emeka Morgan, but one thing is certain, God will continue to judge him’ our source concluded. With the current situation of things, obviously, Emeka Nwanne Oguejiofor (Morgan), might have some questions to answer, but the big question is who will ask the question? When and how? For the records, MC Loph and sister both died in a ghastly motor accident on September 14, 2011 along Ore road, on his way to the village for his traditional wedding, which eventually didn’t hold.

Europe To Ban Men From Urinating While Standing Tweet

The local chapter of the Left Party, a socialist and feminist political party, in Sormland County Council, Sweden, is pushing to make standing while peeing illegal for men using the county council’s public restrooms. Party officials are pushing to make public restrooms in the county council “sitting only.” Supporters of the proposal say sitting while urinating is more hygienic and promotes sanitary restroom habit for male users. It will help to eliminate the problem of puddles on the floor and spray stains on toilet seats. They also argue that urinating while sitting will help to promote male health because it allows men to empty their bladder more effectively. Sitting while urinating according to advocates will reduce prostate problems among men. As a compromise, the party has proposed that some toilets could, in the interim, be designated exclusively for men who must remain standing while peeing. The Left Party’s Viggo Hansen, who made the proposal, said that ultimately he wants office toilets in the council to be genderless and would thus like to see only “sit-down” toilets in county council offices. He said that the move should not be seen as meddling in the bathroom habits of people. He said: “That’s not what we’re doing. We want to give men the option of going into a clean toilet.” But proposals across Europe to enforce “sitting only” regulation in public toilets have been criticized. Dr. John Gamel of Louisville University noted that the push to enact legislation banning men from standing while peeing in restrooms is spreading in Europe with feminists pushing similar legislation in Germany, France and Holland. “The liberated women of France and Germany and Holland have vowed to put their men down – on the toilet. They carry placards showing a huge red X scrawled across a man standing to urinate. They shout: “Laissez tomber votre pantalon, et asseyez vous! (Drop your trousers and sit)!”: “Behalte deine Tropfen fuer dich (Keep your drips to yourself)!”; “Toch niet weer een vieze plas op MIJN badkamer vloer (Not another filthy puddle on MY bathroom floor)!” Gamel argues that legislation cannot force men to adopt more supposedly sanitary habits while peeing. He told The Huffington Post that the spray and spatter during “shake off” will not be prevented because “no man will want to shake off” while sitting on the toilet to avoid sticking the hand inside the toilet. Gamel writes: “…most of the stray “sprinkles” that so enrage European women occur not during the act of urination itself, but immediately afterward, during a ritual men learn as part of their potty training. The various maneuvers required to discharge the urine remaining in the urethra. A man who tucks away his penis without performing these maneuvers will dribble half an ounce of urine into his underwear, causing an embarrassing stain in the crotch of his trousers, or an even more embarrassing streak down his trouser leg. To avoid this debacle, every sentient male, after every urination, carefully squeezes or “milks” his member to assure that no stray drops remain within the urethra. “Unfortunately, some men pursue this goal with excessive vigor, indulging in what can only be described as “shaking off the last drop.” It is precisely these movements – and not the free-falling stream itself – that deposit most of the unwanted urine on lavatory floors throughout the world.” “As a result, forcing men to sit while emptying their bladders will serve little purpose, since no man wants to shake himself off while remaining seated on the toilet.”

Jonathan Tests Gnvs' Loyalty, Sets Dinner date to Coincide with Amaechi's NGF meeting

In a frantic bid to break the ranks of the Nigeria Governors Forum (NGF), President Goodluck Jonathan has summoned an emergency meeting of all the state governors slated for Wednesday, 8pm at the Aso Rock Presidential Villa. The timing and date for the President’s meeting curiously coincides with a meeting of the NGF called yesterday by its elected Chairman, Rotimi Amaechi scheduled for tomorrow in the Rivers Governor’s lodge, Asokoro, Abuja. This is the first meeting called by Amaechi since his emergence as chairman after last month’s disputed NGF election. Amaechi won 19 votes against 16 clinched by his opponent, Jonah Jang, but the Plateau state governor, with the tacit support of the Presidency and the ruling Peoples’ Democratic Party (PDP), has continued to lay claim to the chairmanship, citing his endorsement by 19 Northern governors, who chose him as their consensus candidate. A Press Officer of the NGF Secretariat, Chidimma Onyenalim, in a notice of the meeting yesterday, said: “There will be a meeting of Nigeria Governors’ Forum (NGF) on Wednesday 26th June, 2013. Time: 8.00pm prompt. Venue: Rivers State Governor’s Lodge, No. 5 Justice Mohammed Bello Street, Asokoro, Abuja.”

Top 20 Forbes' Celebrity : Beyoncé, Lady Gaga And Oprah Lead.........

Oprah Winfrey is back in her throne on top of Forbes' list of the world's most powerful celebrities, after a two-year stint in the runner-up seat. The American talk-show host knocked singer Jennifer Lopez off the spot and into number 12, but still shares the top ten winners' enclosure arena with a multitude of women. There are six girls in the plum positions - and the only man to make it into the top five is film director Stephen Spielberg, who, coming third, is sandwiched between Lady Gaga in second and Beyonce in fourth. Are the women raking in more cash than the men these days? Continue to see the top 20 list ... 2013 FORBES' CELEBRITY 100 1 Oprah Winfrey - $77m (income this year) 2 Lady Gaga - $80m 3 Steven Spielberg - $100m 4 Beyonce - $53m 5 Madonna - $125m 6 Taylor Swift - $55m 7 Jon Bon Jovi - $79m 8 Roger Federer - $71m 9 Justin Bieber - $58m 10 Ellen DeGeneres - $56m 11 Hugh Jackman - $55m 12 Jennifer Lopez - $45m 13 Rihanna - $43m 14 Coldplay - $64m 15 Tiger Woods - $78m 16 LeBron James - $60m 17 Simon Cowell - $95m7 18 Katy Perry - $39m 19 David Beckham - $47m 20 Robert Downey Jnr - $75m

Chevron Nigeria Limited Vacancy : Staff Physician Internist

Chevron Nigeria Limited is set to recruit for the position of a Staff Physician Internist. He will Run General and Specialist Out-patient Service, Manage In-patient sevices, Provide Emergency Medical Response Service, Provide Specialist Medical Service for emergency diseases and epidermics, Regularly provide guidance on prevention of cardiovascular morbidity and mortality. Job Reference No.: 2013-HRM-02 Job Title: STAFF PHYSICIAN INTERNIST Job Description: Required Qualifications: Bachelor of Medicine; Bachelor of Surgery (MB. BS) degree plus post-graduate specialist qualification (Fellowship of the Nigerian or West African Postgraduate Medical College or equivalent) in Internal medicine. Required Skills: Proficiency in Echocardiography, Emergency Medicine Skill (ACLS/ATLS), working knowledge of Microsoft suite, good understanding of Occupational Medicine. Experience Minimum of fifteen (15) years post MB. BS with at leastFive (5) years post-fellowship. Job Type: Full Time (Regular) Job Category: Medical Services Job Location: Warri Effective Job Opening Date: 6/14/2013 Job Closing Date: 7/5/2013

Court orders arrest of EFCC boss for defaulting court order

Justice Peter Kekemeke of an Abuja High Court has ordered the Inspector General of Police, Mohammed Abubakar to arrest the Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, Mr Ibrahim Lamorde, for disobeying a valid court order. Justice Kekemeke directed that the EFCC boss and an operative of the anti-graft agency, Mr Friday Ebelo, should be apprehended and kept in prison custody within the next two weeks, except they apologize to a lawyer whose fundamental human rights were allegedly violated by the commission. Meantime, EFCC, yesterday, vowed to appeal the ruling. We ‘ll appeal ruling — EFCC Reacting to the order, spokesman of the commission, Mr Wilson Uwujaren, who acknowledged that a copy of the order was served on the agency, said EFCC has perfected plans to get it vacated. The court had on March 8 and December 5, 2012, ordered Lamorde to release the call-to-bar certificate of one Mr Innocent Onwu, apologize to him through a national newspaper as well as pay him N50, 000 as compensation. Onwu who is an Abuja-based lawyer had on October 31, 2011, initiated a fundamental rights enforcement proceeding after he was detained by the EFCC between June 27 and July 1, 2011 without order of court. His detention was sequel to a petition by the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation, NNPC, accusing him of complicity in fraud pertaining to a case he was investigating for a client. Dissatisfied with the way he was allegedly manhandled by the commission, Onwu demanded N300 million as compensation for the unlawful search of his house and office and the trauma he suffered in the hands of the EFCC. Besides, the lawyer, claimed his ailing mother was admitted at the Garki General Hospital on the day he was arrested by the EFCC, insisting that despite his passionate pleas, the commission refused to release him to attend to his mother, resulting to her death three days later. The court had on June 4 and June 24 this year, dismissed two applications filed by the EFCC counsel, Mr James Onu, wherein he sought to void the contempt proceeding.

10 marriage rules you SHOULD break

….research shows that couples who never fight—assuming that means they’re holding back to avoid conflict—are more likely to split.

The two of you should do everything together; work out every disagreement (without actually fighting); spend every night in the same bed; and never, ever be bored. Say what?! These and other so-called “rules” for marriage need some serious debunking. And it’s not just because rules your mother may have passed on are outdated; some may be downright damaging. In fact, “breaking some marriage ‘rules’ may be the best thing you can do for your relationship,” says Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, psychotherapist and author of Why Did I Marry You Anyway? Here are 10 rules you can break with confidence.

1. Never go to bed angry. 
Where did this one come from? Turns out, it may go as far back as the Bible, which advises not letting the sun go down on your anger. But trying to work through a problem when you’re tired and stressed won’t get you anywhere, says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, psychologist and author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. “Agree to disagree for now, and to revisit the issue when you’re rested.”

2. Always be 100% honest. 
In marriage, no-holds-barred honesty is not always the best policy. For example, “you don’t need to share details of past relationships,” says Bartlein. “That invites comparisons, and when you compare, someone comes up short.” The bottom line: You need to be polite and caring when it comes to your partner’s feelings.

3. Never vacation without each other. 
The received wisdom here is that if you have time off from your jobs and lives, you should naturally prefer to spend it together. One problem with this rule is that you and your spouse may not have the same definition of a great getaway (you like to ski, he’s a beach bum). The other danger, says Dr. Lombardo, is the belief “that you have to be each other’s everything, and that’s just not realistic.” Sometimes, you need a spa weekend, and he may want to go camping (or vice versa). Just be sure that you don’t always take off without each other.

4. If you fight, you’re headed for divorce. 
Actually, says Bartlein, research shows that couples who never fight—assuming that means they’re holding back to avoid conflict—are more likely to split. You need to find ways to fight healthily and productively (without blaming, name-calling and the like), but that said, being committed to respectfully airing out conflicts is a far better rule than “keep your mouth shut.”

5. Once you have children, they come first. 
“So often, I see couples who have put their relationship on hold in order to be good parents,” says Dr. Lombardo. But those couples, she says, have it exactly backward. Making your relationship top priority is better not just for you, but for your children, who need to see you in charge and who feel safer and more secure with parents who have a loving relationship. “Create couple-only time during which you do not discuss bills or children, where you do fun activities and enjoy each other’s company.” The kids’ll be all right.

6. You should never sleep in separate beds. 
Um, snore much? It’s a myth that couples always sleep better and more cozily together than apart. One partner may be a toss-and-turner, or one may hit the hay early while the other keeps a reading light burning till the wee hours. So if one of you occasionally decamps to the guest room, don’t sweat it. “Getting a good night’s sleep is crucial to the health of your mind, body and marriage,” says Dr. Lombardo. Just be sure a separate-bed habit isn’t about avoiding séx or physical intimacy.

7. Partners should sync up their hobbies. 
Though spending every free moment you have training for a marathon while your spouse works on his classic car isn’t good for your marriage, neither is subscribing to the notion you should quit doing what you love just because your husband doesn’t love the same things. Giving up your passions is akin to forgoing your independence, and “without independence in a marriage people feel trapped,” says Bartlein. Pursue your separate interests and find activities you both enjoy.

8. If there’s no spark, you’re doomed. 
Many married couples understand intellectually that they won’t always experience that I’ve-been-drugged-by-love feeling in a long-term relationship. “But many still believe that when the spark dies out, it means they’re in the wrong relationship, and seek something new,” says Bartlein. Long-term relationships survive on commitment and trust, out of which grows love. The mistake here is to believe that you can live forever on fireworks, or even just love, alone.

9. Boring is bad. 
The problem with this so-called rule, says Bartlein, is when couples confuse a calm, predictable union with a bad one. A drama-filled relationship may feel exciting, but in the long run it’s not likely to be healthy. Isn’t it better, she says, to “boringly” know where your spouse is every night than to be “excited” by constant ups and downs? “Better to have a safe, relaxed, ‘boring’ life together in the everyday. You can always inject excitement with vacations and activities.”

10. You should have séx with your partner to make him/her happy. 
This may be a particular problem for women, especially new mothers. “Séx becomes yet another item on your to-do list, and you think you have to do it for the sake of your marriage, and the happiness of your spouse,” says Dr. Lombardo. While neither of those reasons is wrong, they shouldn’t be the only reasons. “Séx is for both of you.”